Do you support ‘victim-offender’ dialogue on-line?

As the main presenter of the “Safe Ground” project that was awarded first prize by the Social Innovation Camp panel (youth justice board, prison reform trust, police improvement agency & foyer housing foundation), I’m trying now to collect further practioner/public feedback on the radical(?) idea that won the competition. What do you think of an on-line way for Restorative Practitioners to mediate/moderate text messages/ phone messages / video clips between victims and offenders?

Where trust has broken down there is still a path – forbearance

In order for us to practice the virtue of forbearance, we must have strength, wisdom, and compassion. We must be willing to settle differences or disputes by means of reason and kindness. We must believe in tolerance and restraint as signs of goodness and bravery. Therefore, if we want to succeed in life and bring about a more peaceful world, we must learn to control our emotions and not to be affected by a moment of anger.

– Master Hsing Yun, “Don’t Get Mad, Don’t Get Even”

Psychologists help

Two psychologists walking along a road find a severely beaten man lying broken and bleeding in the gutter. The first psychologist turns to the other and says, “The man who did this needs our help.”

NVC plus focusing

It’s all too easy for phrases like ‘your needs equal to mine’ and “we’re all doing the best we can to meet our needs” to become pat. Needs consciousness becomes far more effective when it is embodied. Hearing my body more through focusing work is for me a whole new journey. ‘NVC plus focusing’ also helps me communicate needs in ways that many more people get, I surmise.

Trying not to contradict myself

I’ve just turned to my own twitterstream reflections in order to try and find a way to go in terms of what appears a straight friendship/career choice:

Can anyone find a clear path to steer between all those messages?

When it begins to look like a choice between a friendship and a career!

I’ve just been invited (on the basis of my CV alone) to the Social Innovation Camp’s weekend at the end of the month; however going to that would involve letting a friend down for an agreed weekend in Oxford.

Can anyone:
a) offer help in making this decision?;
b) tell me parallel stories of difficult work/friend choice…s,
c) let me know how to conduct an on-line survey via facebook? If not I’ll run the survey from a blog site and let that inform my decision;
d) let me know if asking friends to heavily influence my decisions is a cop-out or looks like progress in my becoming more of a social being?
Jailbrake is a competition to find and support great ideas that could break the cycle of youth offending using simple web and mobile tools.

Paul Crosland Update: I’ve just received an email from my friend saying:
“There is nothing to discuss here. I suggest you just make a choiceand tell me what it is.” There are just so many ways to interpret that!

about a minute ago · Paul Crosland:My instinct is to go over next week to the city where he lives, take him out for a meal, plan a bike ride for the summer and pay him the cost of the hotel that he booked. Reactions?

Please look at the new pages

In the last day, two new pages have been added:
NVC plus
NVC training
If you are in the NVC world, I’d particularly appreciate your looking at the NVC plus page and letting me know what it is that you combine (or aspire to integrate) your NVC practice with.